If I’m tired, I don’t complain. Not out loud anyway. My sleepiness is nothing compared to what my Mom is going through with all the pain pills and recovery from open heart surgery.
Dry mouth to the max, sleepy till it hurts, pain from surgery… it really wears a body out. And until you witness it first hand, it’s hard to fully grasp what recovery from major surgery is really like.
If you haven’t seen it or experienced it, close your eyes and try to image it for a moment. Now, take what you just thought and amplify it by 10. 10x the suffering from what you imagine.
I’m in the hospital cafeteria hopping on this old MacBook Air and taking a break. My mom can’t take a break from the room she’s in. She can’t take a break from the pain, the pills, and the pokes.
I’m the lucky one.
Old and tattered, pages yellow, I’m gratefully thumbing through a book I read long, long ago.
“Yeah, yeah yeah, I know all about… begin with the end in mind, sharpen the saw, think win-win, and …. wait, let me think, what are the other ones again?” were my words that motivated me pick the book up again.
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. The RAVE of self-help books released during the dawn of my adulthood. 1989.
I’ve been eyeballing it for quite some time now. Never really that motivated to pick it back up. After all, I’ve read it already. So many other – just released – titles out there I’d love to dig into and new just seems better. Doesn’t it?
Sitting there dead center on the bookshelf, eye level, I’d see it everytime I scan for a book to pull. Yet, every time, I’d always reach for the more exciting, seemingly more satisfying, unread book fresh from Amazon.
So, from the bookshelf, it slowly made it’s way to the kitchen table, sat there for a couple days, then to my night stand and eventually into the bathroom where I could – you know – “multi-task”. Surely, since I’ve read it before, I could just thumb through it on short mini-breaks through the week.
But, then something weird happened…
I’m going through this classic again and it seems as fresh as the first time I picked it up. Like I’ve never read it before. Maybe it’s because I’m reading it through the lens of greater life experience? I think so.
I think I was 20 when I first read this classic. I’m now 46.
If you’re like me and have read the book years ago, I highly encourage you to open it back up. You’ve changed since you last read it. Maybe you’ll get more out of it the 2nd or 3rd time you read it like I am. It’s damn good.
If you can’t recite the 7 habits, you aren’t using them to benefit your life. If you CAN recite the 7 habits I challenge you to write a short one page essay on each one explaining the concept. I’d be willing to bet that you would be stumped. A clear indication that revisiting this book is in your best interest. So, take the easier route and just go back and read this book again. You will be so happy that you did.
And hey, talking about habits, I’m getting back into activity that never really developed into a habit. Journaling. This time public and published right here on this blog. You’re reading it now.
My Goal – My commitment: Publish FOUR Journal posts weekly.
Not 3 or 4. FOUR.
It’s specific. It’s a solid goal, not a squirmy(ish) “should do” with an easy out. A solid commitment. So, it’s fitting that I’m getting back into the thought process of the book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. After all, it’s all about character ethics which is precisely why I’m committing to consistent, public journaling.
If you’re interested – Welcome to my life!
Drowsy after 15 minutes on my Audible app listening to “Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life”, narrated and authored by Wayne Dyer, I turned the sheets to flick off the light on the night stand.
Comfortable in my bed, I began to drift off content with the day.
Drifting deeper and deeper, almost asleep, I thought to myself: “What did you do today?”
I shouldn’t have answered myself…
Suddenly, I’m eyes wide open, alert, and alarmed by the answer to my own question:
“Nothing. You did nothing today.”
I was woefully aware, right there and then, that I managed to wade through the day without doing anything substantial toward my goals. I blew it.
The thought changed my entire state. One moment I’m blissfully nodding off to a peaceful slumber, the next I’m wide awake and slightly annoyed with myself.
I started with a lot of tasks and the day was super busy. It’s not like I sat on the couch all day. But, like a zombie, I spent most of the day just “doing stuff”. I responded to important emails as they came in, followed up with my video production clients on the phone, worked on website stuff, cooked dinner, helped my neighbor with some chores (he’s quadriplegic and I’m super happy to help with anything I can.), had one-on-one conversations with my employees, researched this and noted that, ran some errands during lunch, cleaned the nasty ass dog dish… and on and on. Just a bunch of stuff.
I did NOT “Carpe Diem” if you know what I mean.
I didn’t seize the day…I let it rule over me. I was busy with what the day handed me. My focus was on whatever was presented to me.
Although I got a lot done, a lot of important stuff, a lot of responsible stuff, – – that’s not focus.
You know what I did today?
And “hustling” is a far cry from focusing.
A lot of stock is being thrown into the word “hustle” these days and far too many entrepreneurs and business owners are buying into it. Long, frantic days banging out task after task, pitch after pitch, email after email. Working hard, making things happen.
Want to know what’s better than hustle?
How about this?
When you’re mindful you’re aware. You are awake. Wait, scratch that, you’re aware that you’re awake and aware of what you are doing. You are not on reactionary auto-pilot responding to everything that’s thrown at you and surviving the day.
I mean, that’s exactly what I did. I survived the day. I even had a lot of little success in there. I was productive. I was responsible, I fulfilled promises, I did a lot. All in all it was a pretty good day.
So in the spirit of this ever so popular notion of HUSTLE to make it, reframe. After all, anybody can spazz out to exhaustion and feel like they did something.
When you want to hustle. Become mindful first. Then focus.
Being mindful is focus with purpose. It’s concentration on the important stuff and only you can define what’s truly important. You define that.
If you hustle without being mindful of what you truly want from the day, you may just may end up being jolted from a peaceful sleep with regret like I was.
First day of spring: 2017
Spring represents a new beginning. A fitting day to start a diary,right?
Sorta reminds me of this:
When I purchased this domain years ago, it was simply to create personal email address.
Now, I’m ready to experiment and do a little more with it. I’m ready to share deeper, here, than on social media. A blog just makes sense for a personal accounting of everything involved with life.
Here, I’ll be sharing what’s going on in my personal life, what’s happening in my businesses, share insights on books I’m reading, movies I like, what I’m working on, and on and on.
Facebook and other social sites are great for quick shares and some conversations but a blog goes deeper.
The goal? – – Two to three consistent blog posts a week encompassing business, personal, and spiritual insights.
So, if you’re interested – – Welcome to my life!